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Survey: Vast Numbers of Christian Men Addicted to Porn and Having Affairs
Mary DeMuth: Not Marked
Happy birthday to my friend, Mary DeMuth! Today also marks the launch of her crowd-sourced book, Not Marked. Here's what Mary has to say about it:
I'm humbled and grateful to be here today. A huge thank youto Sandra for allowing me to share my heart.
A little background: I've sharedmysexual abuse story in the past few years, but I haven't always beenso open. Initially I kept it silent for a decade, then over-shared, then wentsilent another decade. The healing journey hasn't been easy, but it has beengood.
Not Marked (e-version)
Not Marked (print version)
The book's website
More on Evangelicals and Sex
Respondents said that the sexualized society is the top reason why some young, unmarried Christian adults have sex even though they believe it is morally wrong. Lacking a strong foundation in the Bible and “living for the moment” closely followed.Three in four unmarried evangelical Millennials said they are committed to not having sex until they are married. This was true for 63 percent of those who had been sexually active, but who had been abstinent for at least the last three months.For unmarried evangelical Millennials who have been sexually active, 42 percent expressed strong regret about that activity. Another 28 percent somewhat regretted their activity, while 15 percent somewhat did not regret it, and 15 percent strongly did not regret it. One out of 10 unmarried evangelical Millennials agreed strongly that “I would like to remain abstinent, but I just can’t seem to do it.” Fifty-three percent of those who had been sexually active in the last three months agreed with the statement.Most respondents (87 percent) agreed strongly that the church they attend teaches that sex outside of marriage is wrong, and most of the rest (10 percent) agreed somewhat.
Sex and Evangelicals
11 percent of unmarried respondents were currently co-habiting with a romantic partner.Never-married respondents who had been sexually active in the past, but not in the past three months, on average said the last time they had been sexually active was 3.3 years ago, with a median of two years.The average respondent who had been sexually active previously but not within the past three months was 20 years old the last time he or she had been active.
Nine Ways to Navigate the iSex World
On Tapestry this week my topic is Nine Ways to Navigate the iSex World.
We've got "Girls" on HBO. “No Strings Attached,” and “Friends with Benefits” in the theaters. And the skyrocketing success of the mom-porn title, Fifty Shades of Gray in bookstores. Seeing a pattern?
What Do You Think?
Health magazine ran an interview with Brooke Shields in which they applauded her "mission to empower girls." Here's something she said that made me question Health's verb choice:
Q: What’s your biggest health regret?
A: Not learning to love the way I looked earlier. And I think I would have had sex a lot earlier! [Laughs.] I think I would have lost my virginity earlier than I did at 22. I had the public and all this pressure, and I wish I had just gotten it over with in the beginning when it was sort of OK. I think I would have been much more in touch with myself. I think I wouldn’t have had issues with weight—I carried this protective 20 pounds [in college]. It was all connected. And to me, that’s a health regret.
As the mother of a teen girl, I have questions about her mission.
What do you think?